A Sad and Uncomfortable Feeling
Talking to someone who is grieving can feel awkward and uncomfortable. It’s difficult to navigate such a complex situation. The shock of losing someone leaves a person reeling and inconsolable. Trying to determine the right approach to take, whether through humor or by being sympathetic, can make you feel you’re walking on eggshells. There’s no perfect answer here, but this article will go over some general guidelines to help both of you through some very difficult moments.
Be There for Them
One of the easiest and most effective things you can do is to be with them. It’s a primal instinct to remain in a clan. Losing someone dear to us strips away that feeling. You can’t replace the person who has passed, but you can ease the feelings of isolation by being a dependable person in their support network.
Don’t try to console them by saying things like, ‘It’s okay,’ or ‘Things will get better.’ When a person has just suffered a devastating loss, these types of comments sound like you’re trivializing their grief. In fact, you don’t have to say anything. Just being there with them to listen to anything they have to say is probably the best thing you can do.
Many times, the bereaved may show to you they want to be alone. You could leave, but if you feel that they shouldn’t be left by themselves, tell them as much and suggest that they get some sleep while you stay in the living room or other common area. Suggest to them you take their calls so they don’t have to deal with situations they’re not ready to handle.
While they’re resting, you can clean up or get them something to eat. It’ll be comforting to them knowing that someone is handling some tasks and making minor decisions, allowing them to just collect their thoughts.
Watch Out For Their Health
Grief brings on a state of shock can lead to low blood sugar and while we rarely equate crying with dehydration, there’s a definite correlation between them. Smoothies are a great way to get blood sugar levels back on track and replenish lost electrolytes and vitamins and minerals.
It’s difficult to eat when you’re bereaved. Smoothies are nourishing without dealing with the formality of sitting at a table. They also boost your immune system, which takes quite a hit after a shock.
The vitamins and minerals also help with brain function.
A warm bath can help them sleep and bring them a bit of the solitude they need to quiet their mind, which is essential for brain function.
A warm bath can help them sleep and bring them a bit of the solitude they need in order to quiet their mind, which is essential for brain function.
Know Your Own Limits
The most important thing to keep in mind is that you can’t fix the situation or ‘snap them out of it.’ Everyone walks through the stages of grief at a different pace. As long as you’re there for them on their journey to recovery, offering comfort and help when they need it, that’s the best thing you can do for them.
